Team & Leadership development

Francis Becks Consulting

Francis Becks is a strategy and leadership development firm based in the Brantford and Greater Toronto Areas. We bring a strengths-focused approach to developing leaders, restructuring businesses and coaching teams to their full potential.

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What it Means to Be a Leader

To lead others, you first need to lead yourself.

We'll be breaking this conversation up into several blog posts, and let's commence the "What Does it Mean to Be a Leader" conversation with the idea of leading ourselves first.

1. Be proactive.

The conversation starts with looking at me.

Re-active people: respond to the circumstances.

Proactive people: choose their life/path/values and circumstances happen around them.

Our language will show if we are thinking pro-actively or reactively.

“He makes me mad.”

“There’s nothing I can do.”

“Let’s look at alternatives.”

These become self-fulfilling prophesies.

You choose your response. Your behaviour isn’t caused by circumstances.

 

Are you giving someone else power over your emotions?

Every time you think the problem is OUT THERE that thought is the problem.

if you are constantly critical of your relationships/teams/partners (instead of dealing with your own crap), then you 1. validate them in their response and box them into that negative behaviour. 2. are saying that you are a powerless victim in a negative situation.)


If, instead, you work on yourself, you’re giving the other person the space to grow in a safe place.

Finding Common Ground

Finding Common Ground is sometimes simple, sometimes difficult, but it can always be accomplished with determination and commitment.

It starts with this:

 

•listen

•ask questions

•humility: I will think of myself less and others more

•adaptability: I will move from my world to theirs


Barriers for finding common ground:

a. assumptions

b. arrogance

c. control:

“I don’t want others to know what I think/care about/feel.”

d. Indifference

And finally, from one of my all-time favourite leaders:

“If you talk to a man in the language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.”

-Nelson Mandela